“We remove ourselves from our grief or our revery and we go into our phones.

People want to be with each other but also elsewhere.

People want to customize their lives. They want to go in and out of all the places they are because the thing that matters most to them is control over where they put their attention.

The Goldilocks effect: not too close, not too far; just right.
People can’t get enough of each other, if and only if they can have each other at a distance, in amounts they can control.

Human relationships are rich, messy and demanding, and we clean them up with technology.

The feeling that ‘no one is listening to me’ make us want to spend time with machines that seem to care about us.

We expect more from technology and less from each other.

The moment that people are alone, even for a few seconds, they become anxious, they panic, they fidget, they reach for a device.
Being alone feels like a problem that needs to be solved.

I share therefore I am.
Before it was: I have a feeling, I want to make a call.
Now it is: I want to have a feeling, I need to send a text.

We need to listen to each other… …because it’s when we stumble or hesitate or lose our words that we reveal ourselves to each other.

Now we all need to focus on the ways technology can lead us back to our real lives, our own bodies, our own communities, our own politics, our own planet. They need us.”

Sherry Turkle